Many people believe that long distance relationships are a waste of time.
Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously.
Yes, LDR isn’t easy.
The extra distance makes many things unachievable.
And while we can all agree that long-distance relationships aren’t ideal, they’re definitely not the end of the world.
In fact, with the right mindset, the right expectations, and the right pieces of long-distance relationship advice, you can have an LDR that thrives and grows stronger over time.
There are specific considerations that will improve your chances of a healthy, lasting love.
Here’s what to keep in mind.
Set clear personal boundaries
One of the most important pieces of long distance relationship advice is to set boundaries.
You and your partner need to set some guidelines as to what is acceptable and what isn’t in your relationship.
Personal boundaries play a huge role in relationships from afar, as well. Long distance relationships fail because of a lack of trust and invasion of space, even if it’s just virtual space.
Know each other’s schedule
It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy and when he/she is free, so that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time.
You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when he/she is in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting.
Know the small and big events that are taking place or will take place in each other’s life.
Don’t talk every day
It is unwise to be overly “sticky” and possessive.
You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going.
It might actually make things worse.
If you continue to do this, soon you would get tired of loving.
Remember: Less is more.
It’s really not necessary.
You don’t need to be in constant communication.
You must keep some of the mystery alive!
If you go a few days without talking to your partner you’ll have a more interesting conversation to look forward to in a few days. Plus, keeping tabs on another person and providing them with constant updates can get exhausting.
Update your partner on your life and its happenings, however mundane some of the things may seem.
To up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time.
By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.
Avoid dangerous situations
If you already know that going to the club or going drinking with your group of friends late at night will displease your partner, then you should not do it or tell your partner ahead of time to give him/her reassurance.
Don’t be careless about this matter because your partner is only going to be suspicious, and of course, very upset, because you are putting him/her in a position where he/she feels powerless or lacking in control.
You need to recognize the dangers before entering into the situation.
Do stuff together even though you’re apart
Just because you aren’t physically in the same place doesn’t mean you can’t have fun together.
Plan a movie night together via Skype where you can watch the same movie even when you’re in different places.
Netflix or other streaming services, makes it easier than ever to binge-watch shows with your partner.
It is also recommended to do some online quizzes or games together, and discussing the results to spark new and interesting conversations.
Talk dirty with each other
Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples.
Sexual desire is like a glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart.
Not only is sex a biological need, it is an emotional one as well.
Keep the flames burning by sending each other teasing texts filled with sexual innuendos and provocative descriptions.
Make fun plans
Plan the things that you two want to do together the next time you see each other.
Maybe you can decide that every night you’re together, you’ll try new restaurants instead of going to the same places.
This will create something that both partners can look forward to.
Scheduling a “good night video calls” when you’re both in your PJs in order to create a sense of going to bed together.
Have a goal in mind
No couple can be in a long distance relationship for forever.
Eventually we all need to settle down.
So make a plan with each other.
Do up a timeline, marking down the estimated times apart and times together, and draw an end goal.
It is important that you two are on the same page and have the same goals.
So that even if you are not living in the same space and the same time zone, both of you are still motivated to work together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.
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